Respect or Respectable

respectEveryone seems to have an opinion these days about what guys really need – materially, physically, nutritionally, pharmaceutically, and emotionally. Most likely, this is related to a culture that is suffering from an anemic kind of manhood and looking for any, and every, possible solution. Recently, and on several prior occasions, this idea of the male need for respect has come across my path. As I have pondered this concept, I can’t help but wonder if we are, once again, missing the point entirely.

I need it … I really need it3

But Dad, I need it … I really need it”, exclaimed my youngest son. Knowing this to be a standard reply for him, I had mine ready to go, “You only need air, food, and water.” After the briefest of silence, came my wife’s voice, “And love … you need love too.” I smiled and quickly conceded that indeed we do also need love and the brief exchange came to a close, but the encounter started me thinking. I could hear the words of Colonel Jessup, the character played by Jack Nicholson in the hit movie A Few Good Men, “Deep inside in places you don’t talk about at parties … you want me on that wall … you need me on that wall.” Since then, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about wants and needs, more so on the topic of needs – what is it that deep down inside in places we don’t talk about at parties that we really need? Continue reading